I actually sustained a brain injury in August of 1990 while I was a sophomore
in college in Florida, at Florida A&M University. I was pursuing a career in
military science. I was in the United States Army Reserve. I had been in for 1 year,
and I was in ROTC, training to be a commissioned officer.
When I was going to visit a friend long distance over a summer break--
and I fell asleep at the wheel and had a severe car accident and severe brain injury.
While I remained in the hospital for over 4 months of inpatient care,
initially in the state where the accident occurred, but then-- I actually was in a coma
for 2 weeks, but then as I started to regain consciousness, my family
air-evacked me back to the hospital in my hometown. My mother actually
was a nurse, so I went back to the hospital where she worked
so she could go back to work but yet still keep an eye on me. And I received--while I was there
I received occupational, physical, speech therapy, cognitive therapy, the whole
gamut--neuropsychology. And I remained at the inpatient care for basically
about 3 to 3½ months. When I was discharged from that facility,
I continued with intensive cognitive rehab for 2 months. So altogether I had
approximately about 6 months of care in the hospital setting or a full-time
outpatient setting. I then basically was released home and--you know--with not
much care after that. They did recommend that I have psychotherapy, but I
refused to have it. And my only goal was to get a sense of normalcy and to return
back to school, because that's all I knew. I was a student. I didn't know anything else.
And I pushed and I pushed to go back to school. My mother and my
neuropsychologist recommended that I delay that. I did not listen, and I
threatened my mother that I would hitchhike and go back to school if she
didn't take me back. So she consulted with my doctors, and they said, "Let her go. She'll
realize soon that she can't do it." And they--I went back, and within 2 months' time
I was begging to come home. I flunked out of all of my classes. I could not keep up
with my ROTC classmates. I was losing all my friends. I was endangering
my roommate, who I lived with off-campus. I couldn't--I no longer had any
transportation. It was horrible. And so I returned home and started to see how I could
--you know--what I could do and what new goals that I could--you know--where
could I go from here? I kind of was in limbo for about a good 3 or 4 months, trying
to get myself together, wallowing in my self pity--you know--depressed, just
laying at home, not really doing much, trying to stay out of trouble, but--you know--
just really not having anything to do or wanting to do anything. Then I decided that
I needed to go back and pursue something at school. I needed to go back
to an educational setting. But I had to do it--not the same way that I tried
to do it before. I didn't actually use a lot of resources. There were resources
given to my mother, but I thought I could do it on my own.
So I--life at school was pretty difficult for me, because I didn't have any help.
It was hard for me. But, I guess I had just an inner drive and a will to want to
succeed, and so I continued--you know--persevered, and I stuck through it,
but my life would have been so much easier if I would have used the resources
that my school had and that I might have knew about if I would have
read the material that was given to my mother.
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Kelli Gary talks about her life living with traumatic brain injury and dealing with the everyday struggles she never anticipated.
Produced by Vicky Youcha and Brian King, BrainLine.
Kelli Williams Gary, PhD, MPH, OTR/L is an assistant professor in the department of occupational therapy at Virginia Commonwealth University. She sustained a severe traumatic brain injury in 1991.
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