Good afternoon, everyone. It's Adam again.
I wanted to share some excerpts from a conversation I was having with veterans,
some servicemembers, their spouses, and some of their caregivers
in regards to TBI, post-traumatic stress disorder,
and a bunch of other combat- and military-related illnesses and traumas.
One of the things that I really noticed that stood out to me
was the comment from a lot of the spouses saying that their military member,
their spouse, who suffered a traumatic brain injury
appears self-absorbed, rude in public situations or in social settings,
kind of like they'll be having a conversation with somebody,
the light's on but nobody's home.
And then when the person doesn't receive the response
or the communication, conversation feedback that they were expecting,
they perceive that as the veteran being rude or kind of just blatantly disregards,
self-absorbed, or arrogant.
In my experience with traumatic brain injury and with a lot of my friends--
almost all of my friends who've experienced traumatic brain injury--
that's just a very common symptom.
And it ultimately results from the loss or the lack of awareness of the filter when they're talking.
They kind of instead of thinking sequentially between, "All right, I've got a thought."
"Should I say it?" and then delivering that, they go straight to delivery.
Shoot first, ask questions later.
And so it comes across like, "No. Yes. Blah, blah."
And so it comes across rude, without any thought being put into that
or how the general public would take that comment.
That's not an uncommon situation.
I'm here to tell you that that happens to a lot of individuals with traumatic brain injury
or who have gone through traumatic events where their cognitive functions
are just not as precise as they used to be.
So don't let it get you down.
It can be troublesome at times, but just work on kind of having that primer.
Try and charge yourself, your brain and your emotional state.
Get yourself ready to filter your comments before you say them.
A lot of times that will have a great positive impact in public
and the perception of people thinking that the veteran or the TBI survivor is rude,
arrogant, or self-absorbed.
Hope that helps. Try it out and let me know how it works.
Show transcript | Print transcript
Adam knows from his experiences as well as those of most of his friends with TBI that social situations can be difficult. Sometimes they know they can come off as "rude or self-absorbed" but that way of being, or seeming, is more a function of cognitive dysfunction.