Hey guys, it's Adam.
Today I want to talk to you about feelings of guilt after a traumatic brain injury.
A lot of individuals and veterans who have suffered a moderate
or severe traumatic brain injury, their lives are a lot different than they were before.
Maybe they require caregiver support, maybe they require constant medical appointments,
maybe they have ongoing therapy needs,
maybe they just need help with kind of the everyday activities of their life.
Who provides that support?
Well, there's caregivers, there's VA polytrauma care teams and nurse case managers,
there's friends, there's parents.
There's no shortage of teams of people who help contribute to a better life
for individuals with traumatic brain injury.
Because they're giving so much
and those people who care for you are giving up so much of themselves
to assist in regular activities, you may start to feel guilty about that,
or the veteran or the individual with traumatic brain injury might start to feel guilty about that.
It's very common. It's not uncommon by any means.
Any time that happens, try and be respectful
and remain cognizant that these individuals may have a change in role in the household
or maybe somebody who used to be a primary breadwinner or who used to work all the time
maybe doesn't, and maybe that responsibility for earning money for the family
has shifted to other people.
But whatever the situation, these changes in roles happen.
To minimize that feeling of guilt is really opening up those lines of communication,
explaining, "I appreciate what you do for me."
Say something nice to that caregiver.
If you're the veteran with traumatic brain injury, say something nice to your caregivers,
to your family, to your friends.
Do something nice for them.
Anything you can that would be helpful and would be appreciated
is going to really go a long way.
Not only will it do something nice for those people caring for you,
but it will also give you a good sense and a good appreciation for what they do
and all the extra effort that they go through,
and hopefully you won't feel so guilty.
Again, try it out and let me know how it works. Thanks.
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Guilt never feels good. But it's important for service members and veterans with TBI to talk openly about these feelings with their family, friends, and therapists and realize that they are all working toward that person's best outcome. Adam shares his thoughts on the subject.